I've gotten a bit discombobulated in my writing on gender issues; my life has been a bit out of whack lately and I've lost the organization of thought as to where I was going with it (and can't find a few of my books). No doubt I will get it back eventually, but in the meantime I want to respond to a post at CBMW on the true meaning of "headship" (part one).
The post includes an essay by Dr. John Mark Reynolds on how "headship" cannot mean "source" or "origin" because of the generally-understood meaning of the term "headship" at the time Paul was writing, credited to Plato's writings. [correction: What Dr. Reynolds said was not that "headship" cannot mean "source" or "origin," but that kephale as used by Paul cannot be said to definitely not mean "authority." My apologies for the misrepresentation.]
I have no problem accepting that "headship" means "seat of authority," especially religious authority. I have no reason not to, and indeed no desire not to. Where I think the discussion goes south is in the understanding of just what type this authority is, and what it looks like in real life.
As Ilona said, what's at stake is a "worldly," or fleshly, understanding of headship and authority as opposed to the one informed by the Word, whether it be the gospel, the Scriptures, or the Word from the mouth of a true believer, via the Holy Spirit.
What is the religious authority of a man?
The post establishes complementarianism upon male headship as taken from Ephesians 5:23-25: For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands. 25 Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.
But I think that the post's point might be better made by quoting, not Ephesians 5, but I Corinthians 11, where Paul reiterates that Christ is the head (religious authority) of every man, and the man is the head of woman (not specified as being in marriage), and God is the head of Christ. And I think that proper complementarity is better defined by Genesis 2:18-24, which Paul quotes from in Ephesians 5, than by Eph. 5 itself.
The husband is head of his wife as Christ is head of the church as I expounded upon in this post. We must understand what it means for Christ to be head of the church, and God the head of Christ, before we can understand what it means for a husband to be the head of his wife, or a man the head of a woman.
Towards the end of the passage in Ephesians 5, Paul refers to Genesis 2:24: For this cause a man shall leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave to his wife; an they shall become one flesh. In this account (Genesis 2:18-24), headship and submission are not mentioned. Vv. 22-24 (NASB): And the Lord God fashioned into a woman the rib which He had taken from the man, and brought her to the man. And the man said, "This is now bone of my bones, And flesh of my flesh; She shall be called Woman, Because she was taken out of Man." For this cause a man shall leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave to his wife; an they shall become one flesh. The idea of a husband ruling a wife does not appear until after the Fall (Gen. 3:16) and is not mentioned by Paul in his letters.
Complementarian arguments that I've read seem to claim that, in Ephesians 5, Paul reinterprets Genesis 2 in light of Christ, but, as I've argued before, I think this is inaccurate. Paul is not reinterpreting, but rather telling us what marriage in Christ really means, based on Genesis 2. He again tells us what headship means in I Cor. 11 (vv. 3, 7-9, 12), and it is again based on Genesis 2, not the other way around.
The complementarian relationship of man and woman, be it as husband and wife or not, is not based upon headship or authority, as I understand it, but on mutual need -- Gen. 2:18, 23-24, I Cor. 11:11-12. In this relationship, the man is the head, but his headship is as giver of his life, not as ruler-despot. His rule is one of complete sacrifice. His authority lies in this sacrifice and giving, not in anything else. This is his religious authority, the seat of which is found in Christ, as found in God the Father.
So, when a woman submits to such sacrifice and total giving, she is submitting to the Lord, as the man submits to the Lord via his sacrifice and giving. She simply completes the sentence: As God gave up His son, Christ, Christ gave up his life for the church, His body, and the man gives up his life for the woman, who is bone of his bone and flesh of his flesh. She submits to this as he submits to Christ, who submits to His Father in heaven.
