Intellectuelle

From what I've heard about times like this, the #1 thing you can do right is be there, and the #1 thing you can do wrong is try act like anything is going to fix it.

"Laugh with those who laugh, weep with those who weep."

Remember C.S. Lewis' comments in "A Grief Observed"? He liked best the people who just took a deep breath, let themselves be awkward, and said how very sorry they were.

Take care & God bless
Anne / WF

Sherry, I’m so sorry for your friend. I can only begin to imagine what she and her family are going through.

One thing a friend said after a similar loss was that it was difficult when people avoided her because of not knowing what to say or do. Perhaps some stay away so as to stay out of the way, but she appreciated it when people greeted her, asked how she was doing, and asked if there was anything they could do, or just made polite conversation.

Another thing I’ve heard is the lament that people offer help initially but then sort of trickle away. But grief and its effects can go on for a long time. So those who want to help can keep checking in.

Oh I am so sorry for your friend! The advice of Bonnie and Anne is so true.

The best thing you can do for her is to be with her and let her talk. Let her talk about her son all the time, whenever she wants as much as she wants. Let her cry.

It's so easy but it can be difficult too.

Other suggestions- remember his birthday, go with her to the cemetery etc. Those types of things are just priceless.