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Romance for Grown-up Women

I was once stuck in a house for two weeks, no library nearby, with only a box full of Harlequin romances to feed my reading habit. I read them all. I've never had any desire to read another. A couple of years later I had a friend who was hooked on "bodice-rippers," the books that have a picture on the cover of a beautiful young woman with a lowcut dress and a sexy tall-dark-and-handsome who looks as if he's about to rip it off. I read half of one of those and again never had any interest in reading another. If you like either genre, there are plenty of them out there. However, I'm a sucker for real romance, the kind of romantic story that shows both the difficulties and the joy of initiating and sustaining a loving male/female relationship, aka a marriage. Here are a few of my favorite intelligent and multi-faceted romances ---just in time for St. Valentine's Day:

The Love Letters by Madeleine L'Engle. Charlotte is running away from home, running away from her husband Patrick and from their very troubled marriage. She runs from New York City to a Portuguese retreat, and there she discovers a book of love letters written by a seventeenth century Portuguese nun, a nun who pursues a forbidden love to its bitter end. Charlotte struggles with her marriage vows as she reads about Sister Mariana's struggle with her vows.

Gone With the Wind by Margaret Mitchell. Yes, I think Gone With the Wind is an intelligent romance. It's a tragedy; Scarlett realizes, too late, that she's given her life to goals that are foolish fantasies and in the meantime she's missed the love she could have had. Yes, it paints a somewhat sentimental picture of the antebellum South, but actually the book is much less sentimental and shallow than the movie was.

The Age of Innocence by Edith Wharton. Newland Archer is torn between the expectations of society and his own desire for stability and respectability and the passion and adventure he experiences with the exciting and forbidden Countess Olenska. He must choose between May Welland, the woman whom all New York society expects him to marry, and Ellen Olenska, the woman who needs his love and awakens his passion.

Emma, Pride and Prejudice, or Sense and Sensibility, all by Jane Austen. What can I say about Jane Austen that hasn't already been said? One of my daughters hates Jane Austen's novels in which she says "nothing happens." I think she's just not grown-up enough to see the action that lies under the surface calm.

The Prince of Foxes by Samuel Shellabarger. Adventure and romance in Renaissance Italy. Andrea Orsini poses as an up-and-coming son of the minor nobility trying to make his way admidst the intrigue and danger of Italy's labyrinthine political situation during the time of the Borgias. Madonna Camilla is the beloved wife of the old and respected gentleman, Lord Antonio Varano. The two of them have nothing in common, but their lives become intertwined and their fates are joined.

A Severe Mercy by Sheldon Van Auken. This one is a true love story that not only tells the story of the human love of a man and a woman who were determined to have the ideal romantic relationship, but it also tells what happened when God unexpectedly entered the relationship and changed the lives and the relationship of Mr. van Auken and of his wife, Davey, forever.

Christy by Catherine Marshall. Christy is an eighteen year old innocent idealist when she goes to the mountains of Appalachia to teach school in a one-room schoolhouse. By the end of the story she's a grown-up woman who's experienced friendship, grief, and love.

Anna Karenina and War and Peace are both very romantic novels. They're probably not any longer than Gone With the WInd, and people who see you reading one of them will be much more impressed with your reading choices. Kitty and Levin and Natasha and Pierre are both very romantic couples, not without their share of obstacles to a perfect marriage.

Kristin Lavransdatter by Sigrid Undset. Kristin also begins her story as an innocent, but she makes choices as a teenager that set the course of her life. Again, the choice is between established expectations and passion. Kristin chooses the passion, and the rest of this 1000+ page novel in three parts demonstrates the consequences, good and evil, of that decision.

Christian Science Monitor: What Authors Read on Valentine's Day.

What will the rest of you be reading for romantic inspiration on Valentine's Day, if anything?

Comments

I really miss reading Madeleine L'Engle's books. I only own a couple of her children's books, but I was just starting to read the rest of her books when I moved to the UK, and I don't think she's ever been published here. In any case, she isn't easy to find in the libraries.

I love Kristin Lavransdatter.

However, I think I need something light this year, so I'll probably sit down with A Curmudgeon's Garden of Love.

Posted by: Atlantic at February 12, 2007 12:13 PM

I have to admit that I agree with your daughter in her dislike of Jane Austen...*gasp*!! I may be an English major (double *gasp*) but her books have always annoyed me for reasons I can't quite pinpoint. In fact, I made a point of not reading 'Emma' in uni, even though it was on the reading list... Got away with it too! ;)
A book that I really enjoyed, however, was 'Possession' by A.S. Byatt. It's been made into a movie which I haven't seen so I can't tell you whether it's a good adaptation or not.

Posted by: Laura at February 13, 2007 1:20 PM

Severe Mercy was instrumental in my conversion to Christ.

I really appreciate your list, Sherry. Another novel that explores passion, expectation, and ambition is The Thorn Birds by Colleen McCullough.

Posted by: Bonnie at February 13, 2007 11:10 PM

I was thrilled to find somebody who is a fan of both "Kristin Lavransdatter" (my favorite novel) and "Gone With the Wind" (my second favorite novel). Both books were part of my teen years and formed my expectations of what novels should be--I simply cannot endure a bodice-ripper. But I wanted to ask your opinion: Did you notice quite a few similarities between the two books? Such as: Ellen and Ragnfrid both lost three sons and neither married the man they wanted. Scarlett and Kristin both had cool, distant relationships with their mothers and warm loving relationships with their fathers. Erlend and Rhett: both had loving relationships with their mothers; hostile relationships with their fathers; were cast out of polite society in their youth due to sexual scandal; were ship's captains; did military service; were on the losing side of a political battle; spent time in prison; had brothers who retained their positions in society. Careen enters the convent. Ulvhild dies before she can enter the convent. Kristin rejects Simon, who then marries Ramborg. Scarlett tricks Frank into marrying her instead of Suellen. Kristin and Scarlett both lose children, which has tragic results for their marriages. And they both have dim-witted servants; Frida and Prissy. Sorry this is so long, but I suspect Mitchell must have read KL at some point.
(BTW, "The Thornbirds", mentioned by commentor Bonnie, is my third favorite novel...)

Posted by: Joyce LaKee at September 28, 2007 7:13 PM
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