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When things don’t fit the “rules”

One problem with the practice of Christianity, as I see it, is that sometimes there are situations that don’t seem to fit the rules. Or else they are so complex as to require extraordinary maturity and discernment for proper handling. And even then, the most mature, humble, wise, and knowledgeable-in-the-faith may still disagree with one another as to what constitutes proper handling. Oy.

One of the ways this might be dealt with is through deference to authority. Got a real mess on your hands? Take it to a spiritual authority, get, uh, his advice, and then do what he says. Whew, problem solved. Actually I’m not entirely brushing off this approach; I think it has real merit. It’s often necessary. However, I wonder whether we’re always completely off the hook when we do this, thinking we can dust our hands of a situation simply because the responsibility’s been transferred to someone else. I also wonder whether we don’t often bear more responsibility than we can handle, or ought to handle, by not allowing an authority to pronounce, or at least suggest, a solution.

There are two extreme views when it comes to dealing with complex difficulties. One is to insist that there are no ambivalent, or nearly so, situations. Such thinking sees in black-and-white, and, in my humble opinion, is often simplistic and skeptical of the facts, especially those of situations with which the person is not familiar. At the other extreme are those who attempt to deal with an agonizing situation by insisting that there is more gray area, complexity, or ambiguity than there actually is.

Both approaches exhibit denial of some sort. When faced with a choice between two (or more) unbearable choices, i.e., choices between two apparent wrongs, the latter will justify whichever choice is made. And when faced with the same difficulty, the former will pronounce a classification with which to categorically pronounce a judgment either for or against a certain option – which may or may not address the entirety of the situation.

Is it possible that sometimes a wrong is a right simply because there really is no right option in the situation? Or is it that the wrong is still wrong, given that doing wrong is unavoidable in this fallen world of ours, even when our intents and intentions are as good as they can be? I tend to think that the wrong is still wrong, even if apparently there was no “perfect” right that could be done in the situation. Or if the person involved was humanly unable to do what it took to do the ostensibly right thing.

Such a view doesn’t excuse the wrong, yet it recognizes the limits of our fallen existence. We cannot possibly, in certain circumstances, even with the best of intentions, always do the right thing. This is why we need a Savior. Sometimes we find ourselves in impossible, agonizing situations that force us to do something that violates our conscience, yet we can see no other way. Might this be due to our blindness? Sometimes, surely. But if so, it may be our collective human blindness; a blindness from which no one, no mortal human, has been granted reprieve.

I realize I’ve given no concrete examples...those are coming in future posts. (Don’t say I didn’t warn you!) Actually, I’m sure most of use can think of a few. I welcome you to share them in the comments, and/or discuss this post.

Comments

As you often do, you've hit on an important subject. I posted about it, more or less, over a year ago.

Turning everything over to some authority is, for competent adults, a mistake. So, of course, is always relying only on yourself.

Posted by: Martin LaBar at February 1, 2007 12:39 PM

Excellent beginning to a topic that has been on my mind. I'm looking forward to more!

Posted by: Hannah Im at February 2, 2007 11:44 AM

Thanks, Martin and Hannah.

Appreciate your post, Martin. I think the challenge for every Christian is to work out, with fear and trembling, what's morally compelling in any situation. That is, to adequately determine what truth is, whether it be black, white, or...unknown. But we mustn't hide in any color, be it B&W or gray.

There's a difference between being honestly committed to the various colors in a situation, or even unsure of them, and being dishonest or manipulative within them. Or being stubborn and unkind, as you indicate here:

"Academics are supposed to argue about questions and answers, and to present more than one side of an issue if they are teaching or writing about it. (They also often use parentheses, and maybe footnotes, to set out contrary positions as fairly as they can.) But that’s not the whole story. There are academics who argue passionately for one side in some quarrel or other, and don’t seem to credit the other side with any sense whatsoever."

One can still be wrong whether one is honest and generous or not, but everyone thinks and acts in varying degrees and levels of honesty and insight in any one situation.

As to seeking a sign, I'm glad you brought that up in your post. Sometimes it's probably legitimate to do so, and other times not. Sometimes it's not a matter of knowing what to do, but having the faith to do (or not do) it.

Posted by: Bonnie at February 2, 2007 2:23 PM

Very thought-provoking post, Bonnie.

"I tend to think that the wrong is still wrong, even if apparently there was no “perfect” right that could be done in the situation."

In my life, I've found that often the wrong it seems I must do is a result of some other wrong I committed. By failing to do right in one circumstance, I close the door that will allow me to do that "perfect" thing. The right thing for me to do at that point is not perfect, but it is the thing that will put me back on track. It's better to be Mary or John at the foot of the cross, but when I'm not, I hope that I'm the "good thief" asking Jesus for mercy from the cross.

Posted by: MC at February 4, 2007 9:20 PM

Fascinating topic.

Going to a trusted authority or advisor for counsel can definitely help, particularly if they can actually cast new light on the moral issues at hand. Given the Catholic doctrines on sin, confession and penance, the Catholic Church has a keen interest in types and severity of sins, mitigating circumstances, culpability, and general principles for difficult cases.

I believe that the standard Catholic position on being forced to make a choice between two apparent wrongs, where non-action is either not an option, or is itself an apparent wrong, then one should to the best of one’s ability (this includes seeking advice if possible) choose the lesser of the two wrongs, or choose either if one cannot decide which is lesser. In such a case, is not a sin to choose a lesser wrong, since the choice is forced, whereas sin requires consent of the will.

Of course, one could be somewhat culpable – for instance, a person might on some level believe they are choosing as best they can, but they might have been culpably negligent about investigating the moral issues properly, perhaps because of an attachment to sin.

I think in such a situation, any wrong committed is still objectively wrong, but one’s personal culpability for it is lessened or absent, depending on the exact situation.

I think MC is on to something important with the statement “In my life, I've found that often the wrong it seems I must do is a result of some other wrong I committed.” When one is faced with a situation where the only choice is between wrongs usually seems to be the cascading result of sin, often one’s own, sometimes that of others, or the general effects of the Fall.

Personally, I find that one of the most challenging things to deal with is the effect of sin on the formation of one’s conscience – due to my own sins and the bad company I’ve kept in the past, not to mention the influence of mainstream society that regards some grave sins as completely acceptable and even good, I’ve don’t have the sensation of moral horror at certain sins. I worry that as a result, I’m counting them too lightly in my moral calculus.

Posted by: Atlantci at February 6, 2007 2:38 PM

Atlantic, I’m sure that the Protestant church could learn from the Catholic Church when it comes to accountability and penance. Not necessarily with a system, but from the example of confronting and meaningfully processing difficulties according to the terms you mentioned.

You articulated some of the possibilities I was thinking of regarding wrong, wilfulness, and culpability. In my first draft I wrote that if intent was good, a wrong was not a wrong if one was forced into it. Then I rethought that and took that statement out. And then decided not to get into the matter of accountability for various circumstances of wrongdoing. But I’m glad you did!

Great points as well on one’s sense of sin. It can go both ways – one can either fail to recognize the gravity of a sin, or else regard something as sinful that may not be. Certainly both cultural and personal factors influence this. One’s own sin or habits, as well as those of others, can greatly add to the confusion.

Great discussion.

Posted by: Bonnie at February 6, 2007 10:19 PM
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