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Thoughts on Child Abuse Law

There once was an investigation
based on untrue information
That ol' Bill of Rights is oft ignored in these fights,
by accepting anonymous accusation

Marla's hot-button entry on how to deal with a convicted child molester in the church brought back memories of my own experince being falsely accused of child abuse. (This is really not related to Marla's story except that it jogged my own memory, and it is not intended to comment further on that case - the comments she received, though, were very interesting and thoughtful).

Years ago, when Moppet 1 was about two years old, a friend and I found ourselves back in touch with an old acquaintance (one who had been less than trustworthy in the past) but who claimed to now "be a Christian". We set up a lunch date with this woman, and she was welcomed into my home.

The next day there was a note on my door from the CPS. I called them and was told there had been an allegation of child abuse against me. The next night a social worker came to our house, and we were told that an anonymous person (identity withheld for their protection) had made these accusations:

- That my daughter had no clothes
- That my daughter played in human waste on the floor
- That my daughter was fed food that the cats ate

Despite the fact that the accuser remained anonymous, we *knew* who made the accusation because the allegations were twisted from what the above-mentioned woman had seen occur in our home:

- That my little daughter liked to run around naked in the hot California summer
- That she was learning to use the potty, and once peed on the floor
- That we went out for coffee without fully cleaning up after lunch, and when we came home the cats were on the table eating from the chicken carcasse


So, because of this, these people came into my house, my daughter had to be examined naked and the inside of our refrigerator had to be investigated.

The BIll of Rights clearly states that:

1) People (are) to be secure in their persons, houses, papers, and effects, against unreasonable searches and seizures, (this) shall not be violated, and no warrants shall issue, but upon probable cause, supported by oath or affirmation, and particularly describing the place to be searched, and the persons or things to be seized

2) to be confronted with the witnesses against him (this is said in the case of a criminal trial), but child abuse, when first alleged, is considered a civil case, not a criminal case. That's why there is no such thing as due process in child abuse accusations.

Now, it might seem easy to say in my case, "All's well that ends well". The social worker who came to our house was friendly enough, and even spoke of how many abuse allegations are false, and of course, they looked around our place and saw no evidence of abuse or neglect. But what if we had not made an appointment, and they had shown up after a week of stomach flu, with the house a mess, dishes in the sink, and the smell of vomit and dirty diapers in the air? Based on the determination of the person "visiting", my little daughter could have been taken from my home with no warrant and no formal charge of a crime against me.

It has been said that hard cases make bad law, and I think that is what we are seeing today in these cases. Fundamental liberties that Americans have taken for granted for years can suddenly disappear in the face of abuse allegations, all in the name of "protecting children". Protecting children is a good thing, but really, *protection* is not a function of the law, nor is protection something the law can provide. The law steps in when a person has already been harmed, and investigates to see it can be determined who caused the harm. Then, in our system of law, which holds (in theory) that people are innocent until proven guilty, there are many safeguards to ensure that those who are accused of a crime are treated fairly. These safeguards were put in place in the Constitution because the Founders knew and feared excessive government intervention in the personal lives of people, because they knew that it is in the nature of States to expand their power.

Please, don't misunderstand me and say that I don't care about children, which seems to be a common knee-jerk reaction to saying that the Child Protective Services in this country are (at best) unaccountable or (at worst) totally unconstitutional. This is the same reaction that often comes when one says they think public education should be abolished..."Don't you think children should be educated?". This kind of reaction is called the either/or fallacy or the false dilemma.

"Regardless of the fact that actual abusive behavior by parents already falls almost completely under criminal sanctions in force for centuries - assault, murder, criminal negligence and so on - many people object to leaving child abuse under regular criminal law, even when this would maintain constitutional safeguards, which have historically served as a barrier shielding the private sphere of the family from dangerously excessive governmental power"

from Who Owns the Children by Blair Adams

Parents who abuse their children (or people who are accused of abusing other people's children) are entitled to the same legal safeguards that are given to anyone accused of any less emotional crime. Although the private nature of the family can make proving these cases difficult, that is not a reason to throw out all the legal process and protections that have been a hallmark of American law.

Comments

Wow, Samantha, I would be very upset if this happened to me.

My son, who is half-Korean, was born in the US and has a huge "Mongolian birthmark" on his bottom that looks as thought he were beaten really hard with a paddle. The midwives saw it right away and made us take pictures of it before we left to prove that is was from birth just in case anyone accused us of child abuse. They advised us to be careful, especially since the area we lived in at that time was 95% white and thus people were not familiar with such birthmarks. Now that we are in Korea, it's less worrysome since almost all the children have a similar mark. But still, mistakes can be made and people can be purposefully or even accidentally charged with child abuse when nothing wrong has occurred.

Like you, I don't think that the legal way of dealing with the problem is really sufficient. By the time legal intervention takes place, the harm has already been done. And the government can only punish, not deal with the root causes or prevent.

Posted by: Hannah at August 18, 2005 10:47 PM

The process in which it is determined that child abuse is accuring really scares me too! It was always in the back of my mind when I was babysitting 2 little girls. If they were having a temper tantrum in public while they were in my care, it was always in the back of mind wondering if someone was watching and wondering if I had abducted and abused them. Thankfully, nothing every happened!

Posted by: Anita at August 19, 2005 9:37 AM

I mentioned in the other thread that I wouldn't ever be a teacher or a youth minister again. I also wouldn't ever babysit anybody's kids without my wife present.

When I was a teenager, I babysat my youth pastor's three boys. The oldest was old enough at the time to give he and the next oldest a bath. So I let them at it while I watched the youngest. At one point near the end of bathtime, the oldest called me in to the bathroom. When I entered the younger brother absolutely FREAKED OUT and started yelling about me seeing him naked and what-not.
I myself (internally) freaked out. I don't even remember what the older brother wanted, but I immediately left the room and let them get dressed.

Later when their parents came home I explained what happened to my minister. He understood and explained that middle kid is a bit of a drama "king."

But that experience was enough to swear me off of lone babysitting for good. I could just imagine how the story might have sounded if I had said nothing and let the middle kid tell it to less rational parents later on -- "And Jared came in to stare at me naked!"
Or something like that.

Did people 20 years ago even have to think about things like this?
I'm the sort of person who keeps my hands visible in the grocery store checkout line, not because I'm tempted to steal something, but because I worry someone will think I am.

Am I neurotic or what? ;-)

Posted by: Jared at August 19, 2005 10:49 AM

This issue was on my mind last year because my father, who has been in our home probably a grand total of several hours in the 13 years that we have been married, was apparently very, very close to making a claim of child abuse against us based on third-hand information that must have been through a round of the "telephone game." I think other members of the family talked him out of it, but in the meantime, we felt the threat was real enough to look into what we should do if a social services person showed up at our door. The advice I remember best was that you do not have to let these people into your home when they first show up--and that, frankly, it is wise not to if you want to fully protect your family's rights.

It's sad that we have to be so cynical and careful at the expense of perhaps briefly looking guilty, just to protect our family members from such injustice. It reminds me of Mt. 10:16: "... be as shrewd as snakes and as innocent as doves."

Posted by: Renae at August 20, 2005 7:44 PM

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