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Children without chests

Apparently, our schools want to turn our children into namby-pambys so that they will grow up disoriented and spineless, i.e., lacking chests, as per C. S. Lewis.

In Men without chests,* the first chapter of Lewis’ The Abolition of Man, Lewis cites an alarming tendency among educators to disenchant naive schoolchildren with the right and proper sentiments they may hold: sentiments of honor toward their fellows and true respect for nature. Such sentiments are pure, developed within an innocent heart and guided by an upbringing which seeks to pass on eternal values rather than dispense with sentiment altogether, or replace the traditional with the newer and supposedly better.

Says Michelle Malkin in her column of June 29, Namby-pamby nation:

The left-wing Kumbaya crowd is quietly grooming a generation of pushovers in the public schools. At a time of war, when young Americans should be educated about this nation's resilience and steely resolve, educators are indoctrinating students with saccharine-sticky lessons on "non-violent conflict resolution" and "promoting constructive dialogues."

Peaceniks are covering our kids from head to toe in emotional bubble wrap. They are creating a nation of namby-pambies.

Not that non-violent conflict resolution and constructive dialogue don’t have their place in society, but apparently there’s a strong pacifist agenda behind these “educational” materials:”

"Operation Respect" was founded by radical lefty Peter Yarrow of the folk group Peter, Paul & Mary -- last seen in April publicly apologizing to Vietnam. During last year's presidential campaign, you may recall that Yarrow traveled and performed with his old friend and anti-war mate John Kerry, who pretended to smoke a joint while Yarrow sang the ostensible children's ditty "Puff the Magic Dragon."

No wonder they favor "Ridicule Free Zones."

My husband has had first-hand experience with this type of curricula as a public school teacher. He tells me that the materials he’s used have been much less – to use Malkin’s term – pathological, and he’s not altogether opposed to their use. His take is that a lot of kids need training in conflict resolution from a purely practical standpoint, since they don’t get it at home. The school district apparently shares this rationale. Understood.

I also think Malkin goes a little too far with the self-defense/militant theme -- it’s one thing to stand up for truth, but another to wail on someone who insults you. “Speak the truth in love.” Yet I agree that the “I’m OK, you’re OK” Kumbaya approach is misguided, and that sometimes defense of others, as well as defense of what is right, is necessary. I appreciate what Malkin relates here:

In their brilliant book One Nation Under Therapy, Christina Hoff Sommers and Sally Satel diagnosed the public school’s pacifist pathology dead on:

“American children badly need moral clarity. But our education establishment is too uneasy about the idea of moral judgment to meet this elementary need. Feelings of helplessness and disorientation are thoroughly, even compulsively, canvassed, elicited, discussed, and promoted; by contrast, feelings of moral indignation and condemnation are deflected and downplayed. This leaves children defenseless, clueless and unprepared to meet real and grave threats to their own and the nation’s future.”

In other words, what’s a child to do when he/she has tried to make peace, diplomatically, and the opposing child will have none of it, i.e., is a bully?

I find it interesting that Sommers and Satel state that “moral indignation and condemnation are downplayed;” it seems to me that there’s no shortage of either indignation or condemnation in our culture, even among the so-called “peaceniks.” Hmmm...

Note: This isn’t meant to be a critique of pacifism. It’s meant to call attention to the misguided nature of an approach to conflict that seeks to eliminate it either through superficial acceptance or reduction of all thought and action to a morally neutral plane.

*(I have reviewed this chapter here.)

Comments

Great post, Bonnie. It seems like ideologies always seem to move from the center (not a neutral place, but a balanced place) to an extreme. It's either "peace at any price" or "nuke 'em." What's frustrating is that most people make up the middle ground, but the activists on either end polarize the rest of us. On the left it tends to be the people in the humanities sector (media, educators, artists). I'm not as clear who makes up the extreme right--probably because they are not as visible (or influential, in my opinion) as the those in the entertainment/communications realm.

Posted by: Marla at July 5, 2005 9:14 PM

I really appreciated your balanced view on this topic.

I have previously had 4 children in public schools and can testify to what your husband said. It was obvious that some children in the school needed to be taught civil conflict resolution, and the training itself was fairly innocuous, but I can see how over time it would leave children frustrated and confused about taking a stand for anything. Interestingly, the children themselves (my own and others) seemed to understand that the teaching was a bit "namby-pamby" and followed it only because it was required for interactions at school. Many of the catch-phrases have become jokes for us now that they are homeschooled!

Again, I really appreciated the balance and honesty in this post. Thanks!

Posted by: sparrow at July 5, 2005 11:54 PM

The title of your blog today really caught my attention. As a mother of two grown sons, observing a kind, well-meaning but immature ex-son-in-law attempting to raise our grandson, and watching what the little guy deals with at school...well, it's obvious to everyone that our culture is ruining our children.

I don't know if it's inappropriate to add some suggested reading (let me know) but this was on my reading list yesterday and I printed it out for my daughter.

http://www.crosswalk.com/news/weblogs/mohler/?cal=go&adate=7%2F5%2F2005


Regarding the militancy of Miss Markin, I have a tendancy to lean in her direction. My husband is retired military and one son served in the Marine Corps. Given the *times* of the day, I would prefer all American young people to have some military training. The defense of our homeland may well depend on their preparedness.

JoAnne

Posted by: Jo Anne at July 6, 2005 6:30 AM

I appreciate your mentioning that S & S go a bit too far, it seems that it is easier and more motivating to preach an extreme than a truthful 'balance'. True wisdom, especially on political and social topics, is difficult to maintain and doesn't seem to sell that well.

Posted by: Annie at July 6, 2005 7:04 AM

I must admit I am not really familiar with this kind of training since I was homescooled myself and now live overseas. But I agree that it is not right to swing so far in the extreme of non-violence that children loose the ability to boldly stand up for what is right.

At the same time, I'm not sure that I would go as far as Malkin seems to suggest. I hope to educate my son about America's "steely resolve" but also about America's mistakes, including current ones.

Marla's point about being in the middle is good. While I don't see the far-right wing making much impact on American schools, they are making quite an impact on Japanese education. Perhaps that is the topic for another post.

Posted by: Hannah Im at July 6, 2005 5:42 PM

Hannah, that sounds like an interesting post idea. I'd also like to hear more about your homeschooling experience, pros and cons.

Bonnie, I think one of the most telling things about our society is that the schools are expected to do so much parenting, i.e. training that used to be done by families and communities.

Posted by: Lexie at July 6, 2005 9:21 PM

Hannah, I'm interested in your post idea too.

Lexie, yes -- what you say is unfortunate but true.

Posted by: Bonnie at July 7, 2005 9:29 PM

Bonnie,

It seems important to me that we teach our children how to resolve conflict in a civil manner and to avoid violence if at all possible. I imagine you would not encourage your six year old to respond agressively to the provocations of your nine year old. Why would we encourage civility at home but discourage it at school?

What sort of conflict resolution would you like to see promoted in our public schools? Can you provide some alternatives to the "peacenick" methods?

What sort of conflict resolution values do you wish to wish to instill in your own children?

What would an ideal resolution of conflict look like for one of your children with another child in your neighborhood?

Posted by: Ash at August 7, 2005 7:09 AM

Ash, thanks for your comment.

You said, "It seems important to me that we teach our children how to resolve conflict in a civil manner and to avoid violence if at all possible."

Of course. I don't disagree. The point of my post is what's summarized in the Note at the end.

I was also suggesting that non-violent conflict-resolution techniques and constructive dialogue attempts only go so far. What are children taught to do when these don't work? That's the crux.

Posted by: Bonnie at August 7, 2005 8:14 PM

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