[Note: I haven't had a chance to process the recent same-sex marriage decision in California. But in the meantime I thought it was worth pointing out why few gay men in that state will be taking advantage of their new "right to marry."]
"Suppose same-sex marriages were introduced by legislation that also made divorce much harder to obtain," mused National Review editor at large John O'Sullivan. "How many same-sex couples would then be rushing to join San Francisco's wedding carnival?"
My suspicion is that lesbians would heavily outnumber gay men and that there would be a great many grooms left waiting at the municipal altar. It is not lifelong commitment that the couples are seeking (except in moments of romantic fantasy), but the revolving door of modern marriage with no-fault divorce.
On the same February day in 2004 that O'Sullivan published his article, I wrote a similar post, proposing that advocates of gay marriage raise the bar on marital commitment:
By adopting a form of "covenant marriage," gays and lesbians could lead the charge in restoring the sanctity of marital commitment. It would also be much more difficult for foes of same-sex civil marriage to justify excluding homosexuals if they would be willing to adopt such a proposal. The American people are becoming more receptive to the idea of civil union yet are hesitant to expand the definition of marriage. If the purpose of same-sex marriage is to recognize a lifelong commitment to one partner, then homosexual couples should lead the way by adopting this higher standard.
I'll readily admit that my suggestion was made simply to call the bluff of gay marriage advocates. Calling it "marriage" does not change the fact that it has no resemblance to the actual institution. But I also have no illusions that male homosexuals would desire such a marital bond. Gay men--like men in general--tend to be more promiscuous than women. Yet unlike married heterosexual men, gay men don't assume that taking wedding vows means accepting sexual exclusivity.
Fidelity, Promiscuity, and Gay Marriage.
